Residential Care

Hello dear readers, it is I once again lamenting the ravages of Alzheimer's.
Faye has deteriorated rather rapidly this past few months to the point where i was considering placement.
The reason I was thinking this is due to lack of mobility. She is babbling a lot and making some of the most interesting observations: bear in the Cypress Trees eating flowers, fire in the trees, wanting to know if I was married and if not would I marry her. Just little things like that. :)
But that is not the point of this writing:
Because she has trouble with mobility I feared it would be hard for me to help her and therefore cause her pain and discomfort. So my quest began:
All i can say is shame on the providers out there.
First let it be known for us money is not the issue, we have good insurance and can supplement without ever digging into the savings, the issue is the callous and down right disregard business has for our elderly.
I wont name specific places as they might get just a little litigious on me and i don't need those head aches.
I visited 5 places, all top of the line and what one might consider the Mercedes of rest homes.
Each time it is the same, they try to coddle you with "look how nice it is, look at what we provide, and it only costs this much."
Then you press them for facts as to cost:
on average they want $750 a month just to administer pain meds to Faye. So a cup of water and 2 pills is $25 each. (and you pay for the pills.
Now if she needs a shower,(which by the way i am gonna give her when done here) well that is an additional  fee which varied from institution but which also ran the base cost up.
Now TV and Telephone I can understand, no problem, some places want you to provide your own bed and linen, some do not, that will cost extra.
It gets much worse, after the initial assessment they will tell you it will cost you this much per month, then within a month or 2 they will tell you that they were wrong and it will cost more because she is more severe. Oh, and if you complain, it could go up as well.
One place even had bible study: OK, what do Jews do: stay by themselves in their room.

So I am just gonna keep her home until i collapse. I bought a Hoyer Lift and sling so that will help a lot.

So cowboy up there people, such is the lament of the cowboy from the left coast.

CRITICAL MASS

From the deck of the Starship Coventry: Star Date 06/17/2015


So much has happened since last we spoke. The euphoria I have experienced is tempered by the deteriorating condition of my Faye.
First the good news:
I recently signed my 7th, that's right 7th contract for my writing skills. Three are currently available while the other four are in editing with various release dates. My publishing company likes my work and has asked me to just keep sending the stories. Crimson Cloak Publishing.


I have also just recently wrapped a movie based on one of my short stories. I plan on entering it into as many film festivals as will take it. A real study in craftsmanship that was.
I secured a great director and we are polishing it as we speak. Still trying to find someone to write a score for it but one thing at a time.


Faye:
Sadly some things have happened in the last month that concerns me. Prior to that time we could still engage conversation, albeit nothing in depth nor exotic but at least talk. She also was awake more so then as now.
She sleeps most of the day and night and when she is awake the conversation is diminished.
"How long have we been married?"--45 years
"Where did we meet?"---Saddleback Inn
"I love you."---That is a frequent flyer.


Lately she has been waking up wanting to know if we are home from Vegas or when did we get home from Vegas.


We had to put her on Prozac to try and calm her nerves. She chews her fingers as a dog would a bone and denies she is doing it. "I am fixing my ......" she cant get the word cuticle out.


But she is my baby and I do what I can. I am usually up between 3 and 4 AM and take care of what needs to be done. I like the early morning, watching the sunrise. Summer Solstice is coming soon.


Oh, guess I should plug my Indiegogo fund raiser for the movie. Even though no one contributed and I absorbed all the cost of my film. It was well worth the effort and expense.
https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/the-pony-no-one-could-ride#/story


Plus I now have the title of Director and Producer as well as Author after my name.
Now top that you thugs back home. LOL.


So form the deck of the Starship Coventry this is Capt Gary signing off.

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Starting The New Year

Star Date January 5th, 2015


It has been a while so thought an update was in order. for those who care. :).
I met the woman for whom this blog is devoted, 45 years ago this week. At a nice little place called the Saddleback Inn. In Santa Ana, California. (all is chronicled in my book by the way, See Amazon.com and my name) how was that for a cheap plug. LMAO.


Last year was a difficult time for me in respect to the stress involved in caring for a loved one. I reflected on the time we had acquired a nice condo on the beach in Costa Rica. We had lovely visits there. But something did not feel right so we sold it at, as it turns out, the right time as Faye was slowly slipping away from us.


Now we dream of headier things, like what shall I fix her for dinner, and is there another re-run of Funniest Home Videos we can watch, as it is impossible for her to follow any kind of plot.
I count the days until spring training so she can again watch her favorite sport, baseball, for an inning or two, constantly asking me what is happening. sigh. But it entertains her for the time period.


When she eats I now have to watch her very closely as she has difficulty swallowing. This last week alone she has been choking 5 times to the point where I must pound on her back to dislodge the food. She is not blocking her airway, but rather getting food caught in the esophagus where it blocks even liquids. I have been mashing up her food as small as possible. Then I postpone my eating until she is finished just to be safe.


The holidays went as expected. Family over, house full of 20 people and Faye not remembering one iota of who, what, when, etc. but at least we were all together.


He knees have deteriorated to the point she is now on 6 pain pills a day just to be able to move. And here lays the irony: at 82 the only meds she takes is the pain pills, while I at 66 (yes new reader she is 16 years my senior) take 6 different pills just to stay alive. On the humanity. :)


I did my self a favor and bought a new horse to ride, acquired a health provider to watch Faye for me and now will be able to get away, at least 2 days a week, which anyone who has cared for a loved one can tell you, the break is desperately needed.
As fate would have it I ran into my old secretary from my shoeing days (farrier) and she offered to board the horse for me just for the cost of the feed. Karma at work.


So from the deck of the Star Ship Coventry: Captain Gary signing off.